After much debate as to what we would talk about this week, it was decided that Moms needed to have a little blog post thrown their way. At first we thought about a craft, but then again that would mean mom would have to supervise. We didn’t want to add any tasks on top of your busy day, plus it wouldn’t be a surprise for you either. So it was decided to take a different route.
I’m sure many of you have seen numbers of articles about parenting, activities to partake in, places to go, doctors to see, and countless other subjects. On a rare occasion you’ll see some articles about stepping back, taking a breather, and being less hard on yourselves… As WELL as on the other moms around you.
One thing that is so true, and I’ve heard a local yoga instructor say, “No two bodies are alike, as well as no two days. It is not a competition, it is not a time for you to judge, but a time for you to focus on yourself.” Even though it can be very hard to do this, imagine how much better we could feel if we weren’t comparing ourselves to other people.
As our little ones come into this world, our lives are turned upside down to make adjustments to the schedule of a new precious baby. Think of a purse that has been held upside down, and all the contents have been dumped out. Some women would immediately pick everything up, and put it all back in place. Another woman would possibly pick it all up at once and throw it in without a second glance. Then there may be a woman out there reading this right now that is thinking, “I don’t carry a purse, so I wouldn’t have to worry about this happening.” The point is woman are all different, and as we deal with any incidents (including parenting) we are going to react according to what we are most familiar or comfortable with.
Schedules, events, and daily activities are going to differ from one family to the other. One mom may be great at scheduling. She may thrive on having all her events properly placed on a calendar. She is really good at it, and it may make her feel better about her day. Another mom may find that a schedule just doesn’t suit her needs as a parent, and she enjoys spending her days with her kids and seeing what comes there way. Either way… These women are awesome!
What one woman does will not be the same exact way you do it, and it shouldn’t be. As the words above said we aren’t alike, no two days will be the same, nor should they be. Just focus on the moment and do the best you can, confident in yourself as a mom.
If you see a mom, that you think “I just wonder how she does that?” It doesn’t hurt to ask! We have seemed to become more comfortable judging and not reaching out to one another. If you decide to ask, you will most likely find her to be a woman that is doing her best to keep all the balls in the air like a juggler, and trying to not let one fall. Or she might love to share information that helped her. We all know that there is a mom out there that we watched and just wished we could be just half of the mom that she is to her kids. Chances are she feels, or has felt, the same way about someone else.
Reaching out in your community is a great way to connect and learn about others and yourself. Locally we have awesome opportunities for moms to meet up. There are MOPS and local moms groups, school PTA organization, and more. If you are intimidated, find a friend to go with you, but go into it knowing that there is most likely a friend in there waiting for you to join her.
When things are looking bad… Remember… You can do it!
If we aren’t looking at other moms to compare ourselves to, we are looking at what we aren’t doing right. We all struggle with wanting to do our best around our kids ALL day. Well guess what… We ALL aren’t going to be perfect. We’re human, and again no two days are alike. Life gets crazy, people get sick or tired, things get broken, food gets dropped or spilled, children will fight, and chances are Mom is bound to have her patience tested.
Understand that you will have a melt down, just like your little ones. Take a breather… sit in the bathroom and lock the door. Tell your kiddos, that you need to take a few seconds to yourself. Relish the time during their naps, so you can re-energize. If it’s after nap time or they don’t take naps, find an activity that you know they enjoy doing peacefully and let them do it to their hearts content. Mine love to color or blow bubbles, so I let them have a good thirty minutes of that while I start dinner. Which is my time, or I like to think it is! If all else fails, everyone can have some room time, including yourself so you can get a break and come back with a fresh attitude.
All these pointers may seem easier said then done. There are moms out there that have expressed that they are afraid that their attitudes about themselves, or how they have behaved, will ruin their kiddos. Just remember that your kids love you. You are their super mom! Not one that you have made up in your head as what you think a super mom should be or look like. You ARE THEIR super mom, not like any other.
No two women are the same and no two days are the same. You can only face your day as yourself and do the best you can. Do so with confidence, because we know you can.
Some Inspirational Quotes!
- “It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are.” ~ Anonymous
- “The moment a child is born the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother… never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~ Anonymous
- “If we are not a little bit uncomfortable every day, we’re not growing. All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone.” Jack Canfield
- “The most beautiful necklace a mother can wear is not gold or gems, but her child’s arms around her neck.” ~ Anonymous
We wish all of you mothers a wonderful Mother’s day, and we hope you enjoy your time with your children. Happy Mother’s Day Discover! Moms!